Tuesday, March 27, 2012

There's Always Time If You Make Time For ... Tolerance

These days everyone's stressed and high strung; its getting harder and harder for people to stop "sweating the small stuff" and stressing out even more over the tiny things (there are starving children all over the world, after all). No one is immune to this; I am slowly, but surely, learning not to take things so personally, to let things go and to be tolerant. There is a zen proverb that basically tells you to take a feeling (good or bad) and feel it to the max and then... just let it go.
This takes practice.
In terms of tolerance, if you're having a problem with another person, just remember to place yourself in the other person's shoes; keep calm and think things through - this person probably did not think things through in the first place, and it might be an underlying issue within themselves. There are many possibilities, but the hardest thing to do is to not take it personally. Remember, no one is a mind reader, so make sure that you let them know why you're upset; sometimes this helps in that when you hear yourself talk it out and explain why you're upset, you realize how silly your reasoning for being upset is/was. I have done this several times, especially with Thomas. I've been so upset over something and when I tell him, I end up apologizing for being upset over nothing or, I realize that I sometimes do the exact same thing to him that made me mad in the first place. I think everyone hates a hypocrit, but its ironic because we all are hypocrits at one point or the other. Just remember that you are human, but so is the other person and that if you keep level headed and calm, you can work it out so that you both walk away with the fight resolved and lesson learned.

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.
If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

- The Dalai Lama

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